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ADP 040 What do Adult Children of Divorce and Adult Children of Alcoholics have in common?

In this podcast, Kent discusses some similar challenges ACD and ACOA face, why, and what can be done. 

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ADP 039 Overcoming Struggles with Mother’s Day Cards

Mother’s Day can be challenging for adults with divorced parents. In this podcast Kent looks at tough questions like, “what […]

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ADP 038 How Divorce Can Affect Daughters

Kent reviews Kate Spicer article and supporting research on how Father Hunger can affect daughters and how to overcome the […]

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Importance of Reviewing Boundaries

Did your Boundary work? In the last of this boundary series, Kent Darcie discusses the importance of reviewing the effectiveness […]

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Enforcing Boundaries with Divorced Parents

Enforcing boundaries can be hard. Kent discusses how to approach this challenge in the 5th on this series on boundaries.

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Communicating Boundaries with Divorced Parents

In the 4th of this Boundary series, counselor and author Kent Darcie discusses the importance of communicating boundaries.

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Creating a Boundary

Counselor and author Kent Darcie discusses the basics for creating a boundary. Part 3 in this series on Holiday Boundaries […]

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ADP 037 Why is Christmas important?

Paul Harvey: A Christmas Story Kent shares a classic Paul Harvey story that illustrates in very simple terms why the […]

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ADP 036 Navigating Holidays with Divorced Parents-Interview

Holidays can feel like they’re more hassle than they’re worth, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Leslie Nunnery […]

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How to Stop Having Crazy Holidays

It’s possible to enjoy holidays when divorced parents are in the mix. Therapist and author Kent Darcie shares how boundaries […]

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Holiday Boundaries with Divorced Parents – Overview

We don’t have to hate the holidays!

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ADP 035 Holiday Boundaries with Divorced Parents

Kent discusses what boundaries are, why they may be needed with divorced parents, and ways to apply them. 

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So It’s Time to Divorce

Marriage is hard, but you never thought it would be this hard. One day the lightbulb goes off. “Now I […]

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It’s Ok NOT to be OK!

Counselor and author Kent Darcie discusses how parental divorce can create situations that mess with our brains. The problem is […]

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One Reason Adults with Divorced Parents Keep Secrets

Counselor and author Kent Darcie discusses how children of divorce’s need to keep secrets in childhood can lead to keeping […]

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The Anger Monster

Counselor and author Kent Darcie discusses the importance of addressing anger in adults with divorced parents

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ADP 034 Kent interview with Leslie Nunnery

Leslie Nunnery of the Teach Them Diligently homeschool organization interviews Kent on issues that can affect adults with divorced parents.

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Overcoming the Fear of Doom

“Part of me is always waiting for disaster to strike. Some terrible loss will change my life, and it only […]

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ACD 033 When “I’m Sorry” Never Comes

Kent looks at our desire for apologies and dealing with their absence.  

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Premarital Sex Increases Likelihood of Divorce, But Why?

Because research shows children of divorce have sex earlier and with more partners, when I read, “Having between one and […]

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What’s in a Name?

For people with divorced parents, everything! There’s a lot of talk about 4-letter words, but in the parental-divorce world, two […]

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ACD 032 Where Was God?

Kent explores this, often unspoken, question that adults with divorced parents can wrestle with. 

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Revolutionary Way to Help Your Kids Survive the Divorce Process

The first week of January is annually the highest divorce filing and inquiry week of the year. 20% of those […]

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Helping Adults with Divorced Parents Overcome Sadness at Christmastime

This episode of 2 Minutes of Counseling for Adults with Divorced Parents looks at ways to overcome sadness at Christmastime. […]

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ACD 031 Overcoming Sadness at Christmastime

Kent looks at what can cause holiday blues and how to overcome them. 

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Putting the Thanks-giving into Thanksgiving (for Your Sanity)

“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy” James […]

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ACD 030 Talking to Our Divorced Parents

Kent shares a tool for better communication with our divorced parents. 

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Getting the Backstory…and healing Part 3: The Pillars of Healing

My father was an adult child of divorce. His father had divorced parents, as did his grandfather. I was well […]

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Getting the Backstory…and Healing Part 2: Talking with Our Parents

In Part 1, I reviewed how empathetic listening can help improve conversations and our healing. This type of listening encourages […]

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Getting the Backstory…and Healing: Part 1 – Empathetic Listening.

Adults with divorced parents can have lots of unanswered questions. I’ve found ACD are often reluctant to ask them due […]

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Five Ways to Supporting Stepfamilies

The first way of supporting stepfamilies is realizing they are complex. The more parties are involved, the more complex. But […]

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“I’m Committed That We’re Not Going to Divorce”

I’ve heard this and similar statements frequently—most often from adults with divorced parents. However, while the spouse in counseling with […]

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ACD 029 Two Secrets for a Healthy Marriage

Kent shares secrets from a couple who just passed 76 years of marriage. 

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Two Secrets for a Lasting Marriage

It’s no secret that adults with divorced parents have trouble staying married. Many succeed. Many don’t. But past president Jimmy […]

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Did you Find the Right Mother’s Day/Father’s Day Card?

Every year 100+ million Mother’s Day cards are sent—72 million for Fathers. For many, it’s a fun and sentimental task. […]

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ACD 028 Ethical Non-monogamy?

Kent explores temptations that vulnerable ACD can experience through the lens of what works and what doesn’t.  

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Helping Teens Navigate Parental Divorce

I’m often asked for tools to help someone’s teens deal with their divorce. I just stumbled across a solid resource […]

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The Life-Giving Wounds Ministry

Life-Giving Wounds is a ministry that provides workshops, weekend retreats, ACD support groups, and other resources for adults with divorced […]

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Visitation Ended but the Loss Continued

Suddenly, I was at the top of the stairs watching my father leave. That scene repeated every time my father […]

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Is Happy the Standard for Marriage?

In my world of divorce research a lot of celebrity articles come up….which I ignore. On rare occasion I’ll address […]

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Overcoming the Disappointment Gap

The disappointment gap is the distance between our expectation and reality. For example, Covid invaded our home 2 days before […]

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ACD 027 Thinking About Divorce?

Kent helps ACD think through this important decision. 

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Three Steps for ACD to Stop Hating Christmas

It’s the most wonderful time……of the year…….. Is it? Mom insists that you have Christmas dinner in the afternoon—which just […]

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What do Husbands Want?

In my last blog I noted that one of the challenges husbands with divorced parents experience in marriage is separating […]

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What do Wives Want?

Sigmund Freud, the father of modern psychology, lamented, “The great question that has never been answered, and which I have […]

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Reflections on my Dad’s Funeral

My father’s memorial service has passed. It was a wonderful time of honoring him and God. He was a Christian, […]

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ACD 026 Thoughts on my Dad's Funeral

Kent looks at some of the unique challenges adults with divorced parents can face when their parents die. 

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When Divorced Parents Die — Questions

Ten years ago my mother passed. Five years ago my first stepmother passed. Weeks ago my father passed. Due to […]

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Are We as Obedient as the Demons? – A Sunday Snippet

I’m reading “A Year with Jesus”1 which includes daily reflections on Jesus’ words, life, and impact. The author reviewed Matthew […]

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Gates Puts Gray Divorce Back in the Spotlight

If you haven’t heard, Bill and Melinda Gates are divorcing after 27 years (34 as a couple1). Not familiar with […]

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Celebrating our 25th Podcast!

Our 25th podcast is uploaded! This program dealt with helping adults with divorced parents move from being hope-less to hope-full. […]

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ACD 25 Hope-less vs. Hope-full

Kent discussed how ACD can move from a hope-less attitude about relationships, life, and other areas to one that is […]

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ACD 024 ACD's Forgiveness and Boundaries

Kent conducts an overview of ACD’s struggles with Forgiveness and Boundaries

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ACD 023 ACD's Need to Grieve

Kent explores the losses ACD can incur and why they need to grieve them. 

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ACD 022 ACD: Avoiding the Divorce Cycle

Kent discusses why ACD tend to divorce at much higher rates and steps that can help them avoid divorce. 

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ACD 21 ACD: Soothing Their Pain

Kent reviews how  the “harmless” activities of adults with divorced parents can sometimes  have roots in unresolved pain. 

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The Peace of a Million Dollars vs. A Peace-Filled Holiday

You find out that one million dollars is deposited into your account. What would you do? Pay off your debts? […]

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ACD 20 Fear of Abandonment

Kent looks at ways the fear of abandonment can impact adults with divorced parents.

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ACD 019 Fear of Conflict

Kent discusses how the fear of conflict can affect adults with divorced parents. 

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ACD 018 Navigating Divorced Parent's Worlds

Kent discusses the challenges of trying to adapt to Dad and Mom’s different lifestyles, rules, beliefs, and more. 

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ACD 017 ACD Issues Overview 2

This is the first of a ten-part series where Kent discusses additional issues that impact adults with divorced parents. 

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“Home Will Never Be the Same Again”—A Gray Divorce Book Review

“There is no ‘them’ anymore.” Heartfelt words spoken by a man whose parents divorced after he’d become an adult. Gray […]

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Choose a Better Path Promo Video Cast

One year ago we filmed the promo video for my book, Choose a Better Path: Overcoming the Impact of Your […]

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ACD 016 Gray Divorce Overview

Kent discusses the major issues that impact adults who are adults when their parents divorce. 

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Second Highest Season for Divorce is Here

January is #1 for inquiries and filings, but according to a University of Washington study, August is second.* With Covid, […]

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The GIFT in Anger

Unresolved anger is often tops the lists of issues that affect adults with divorced parents. While anger is rarely considered […]

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The Loyalty Challenge: Who Do You Love More?

The good news is a growing number of articles and resources are helping parents divorce in ways that minimize the […]

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Forgiveness: Scooping up the Poop

Dog walkers in my area carry bags for the poop. Basically, they’re picking up someone’s mess. Granted, there’s some involuntariness […]

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ACD 015 Father Hunger and Maleness

Kent discusses the challenge some guys have with answering a key question, “Am I a real man?” when they lose […]

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Father Hunger and the Search for Manhood

“Father hunger is a deep, persistent desire for emotional connection with the father that is experienced by all children.” I […]

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ACD 014 Interview w/Chris Martin

Kent Darcie interviews Chris Martin about her book, “10 Things I Wish I Knew Before My Parents Divorced and Remarried.” 

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Divorce: A Preventable Pandemic?

If you haven’t heard, divorce is “soaring” in China and Covid is the reported culprit. Most news stories are sourcing […]

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Kent Darcie Interview on Choose a Better Path: Overcoming the Impact of Your Parents’ Divorce book

In this video, Kent Darcie answers questions about the impact of parental divorce on the kids when they grow up, […]

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An Overview of Gray Divorce

Kent Darcie (Adult Children of Divorce Ministries) gives a brief overview of Gray Divorce and it’s impact on the adult […]

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LAT: A Temptation for ACD?

Living Apart Together (LAT) may sound attractive, but Kent Darcie discusses the pros and cons for adults with divorced parents. […]

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ACD 012 Reclaiming Christmas

In this program Kent shares a couple of Christmas stories and offers hope for adult children of divorce, because this […]

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ACD 011 Do Divorced Parents Care?

Kent discusses the reality that often is lost in the hurts, offenses, and misunderstandings parental divorce can create. 

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Between Two Worlds The Spiritual Lives of Children of Divorce

Elizabeth Marquardt explores the inconsistencies children of divorce experience and the lingering impact on them as adults.

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Voice of the Child of Divorce

Monica Epperson summarizes the feelings of her story and the feelings of children experiencing their parents’ divorce.

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New Book! Choose a Better Path: Overcoming the Impact of Your Parents’ Divorce Book

This video overviews the powerful new book that can help adults with divorced parents overcome the lingering impact of their […]

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New Podcast Series on ACD Issues

A ten-part series of programs that give an overview of common issues that impact adults with divorced parents are now […]

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ACD 010 Questions ACD ask (or are afraid to)

In this last program in this 10 part series Kent answers questions he receives from adults with divorced parents.

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ACD 009 – Setting healthy boundaries with divorced parents

Kent Darcie discusses the challenges of boundaries with divorced parents and reviews necessary components of healthy boundaries. 

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ACD 008 – ACD's and Forgiveness Pt 2

Kent Darcie discusses some of the myths of forgiveness and explores what forgiveness looks like for those with divorced parents.

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Hope4ACD PC 007 – ACD's and Forgiveness Pt 1

Kent Darcie discusses the struggles adults with divorced parents can have with forgiveness.

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ACD 006 – The ACD's Struggle with Anxiety

Kent discusses some surprising connections between parental divorce and anxiety in the lives of ACDs. 

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ACD 005 – ACD's and Father Hunger

Kent discusses Father Hunger in adults with divorced parents, looks at the challenges, and offers helps to overcome this powerful […]

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ACD 004 – ACD's and Anger Pt 2

In this second program on anger and adults with divorce parents, Kent shares tools that can help reduce angry responses. 

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ACD 003 – ACD's and Anger Pt 1

Kent Darcie and Foster Braun discuss the tendency for adults with divorced parents to struggle with anger issues and what […]

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ACD 002 – ACD's Struggle with Trust

Kent Darcie and Foster Braun discuss the difficulty adults with divorced parents have trusting others. 

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ACD 001 – ACD Issue Overview

Foster Braun and Kent Darcie begin a ten-podcast series that discusses common issues that impact adults with divorced parents. This […]

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Rodeos, Anger, and Adult Children of Divorce

I’ve attended my first rodeo! For you urbanites and millennials, a rodeo is like an old country fair on steroids. […]

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Time for a Seasonal Reboot

One day my phone decided to stay in an update loop. Tech support made valiant efforts to un-loop it, but […]

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Gray Divorce and the First Holidays

There are many firsts in life—some good, some forgettable, some not so good. If parental divorce barges through our door […]

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Loving Your “Enemies” A Sunday Snippet

Jesus stunned His audience by saying, “You have heard it said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ […]

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Primal Loss Through the Eyes of ACD

If you could ask adult children of divorce questions about the impact of their parents’ divorce, what would you ask? […]

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Father Hunger, Premarital Sex, and Divorce

To set the stage for this important topic please answer the following questions: Question #1: Based on the number of sexual […]

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Nuzzling in God’s Neck – A Sunday Snippet

Nuzzling in God’s Neck – A Sunday Snippet Maybe you had one of those conversations with your mom, dad, or stepparent. […]

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Easter, Anger, and Adult Children of Divorce

Though the peeps and bunnies are gone, I keep thinking about a movie I saw Easter Sunday. Normally Charlton Heston […]

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Closet Prodigals Who Ran Away From Home

For kids, parental divorce often creates a desire to escape from it. Our brains think, As soon as I’m old […]